This commercial I recently saw on Comedy Central for Progene male enhancement supplement warns men who are ‘not 20 anymore’ that, without their product, they won’t be able to satisfy a woman.
Here’s a screenshot of a graph from the video which purports to show how men’s sexual performance declines with age:
Of course, we women ‘know it’s not your fault,’ ‘it’s natural.’
Obviously you could could use this for a discussion of the increasing scrutiny men’s bodies are put under (much as women’s long have). But it’s also a good example of the way sex is often discussed; the implication here is that the only way to satisfy a woman sexually is to be able to have sex like a 20-year-old man, and the emphasis is clearly on penile-vaginal intercourse as the main source of sexual pleasure (though it does come with the handy DVD about the female orgasm). I might also use it when I talk about the ways we construct biology and treat some ‘natural’ processes as inevitable and unalterable while attempting to change others.
Like many single women looking for love in New York, the journalist Anita Jain was fed up with the local dating scene. In 2005, Jain, who was then 32, wrote an article for New York magazine — ‘Is Arranged Marriage Really Any Worse Than Craigslist?’ — in which she wondered whether she should let her Indian relatives find her a husband.
It seemed tempting. What marriage-minded woman doesn’t dream of never having to walk into a singles bar again? Yet, while few modern Westerners would be willing to outsource their spousal selection (heck, most won’t even let their mothers set them up on a coffee date), Jain actually hopped on a plane to Delhi. It was the reverse journey her father had taken more than three decades earlier, when he left his homeland for America in search of better job opportunities. Jain, on the other hand, was going to India for what she hoped would be better dating opportunities.
And why not? As her mother would say of her own happy arranged marriage: ‘It’s not that there isn’t love. It’s just that it comes after marriage.’ Besides, while an American man might date a woman for years and still not know if he wants to marry her, Jain was eager to meet Indian men with ‘their clarity of intent.’ She would give herself one year, which she thought would be ample time in a country where ‘it would not be a stretch to say that ‘shaadi,’ the word for ‘marriage’ in many Indian languages, is the first word a child in an Indian family understands after mummy and papa.’
She lands instead in the New India, with its thriving club scene, casual hookups and men who tell you to have ‘no expectations.’ To her dismay, Jain finds herself back in ‘ego deflating’ dating territory: leaving groveling phone messages for an unresponsive boyfriend; having a date cancel at the last minute, only to run into him later on the street with another woman (‘It’s clear that, as they say, he’s just not that into me’); and trolling the Web site shaadi.com for eligible prospects (sadly, Indian men also lie about their age online). But not all tradition is lost. When Jain searches for an apartment, she struggles to find a landlord who will rent to a single woman.
It seems I finally have a reason to start gaming again: new Xbox teledildonics. Kotaku tells us that the Xbox 360 now has cameras with video chat, and while chatting there is a command to make your chat-partner’s controller vibrate. Even though it takes holding down both triggers at once, making one-handed enjoyment complicated, it seems like this is just a few tiny hardware hacks away from being consumer-level teledildonics. It’s my theory that not being truly marketed as porn/sextoy/teledildonics will make it adapted by consumers quickly and easily.
The images to your right are composites of 10 women with highest and 10 with lowest levels of oestrogen. Can you tell which is which? Leave your guesses in the comments. See story for answer.
The new study, led by psychologist Miriam Law Smith, could explain the underlying reason why men prefer women with feminine faces. It is the first study to demonstrate that women’s facial appearance is linked to their underlying health because oestrogen is the hormone which impacts on women’s reproductive health and fertility. These effects on appearance are likely to depend on the action of oestrogen throughout puberty. Link
Via Asian Sex Gazette They strut their stuff and shake their booties as well as any pop band worldwide, and their infectious dance tunes are taking the Asian music scene by storm. But in one crucial respect Lady, the hottest music act to come out of South Korea in years, are not your average girl group. They may have looks that many women would die for - but none of these four singers was born as a lady.Link
Something culturally bizarre is goingon in Hong Kong and from what I haven’t read in the western media (with the exception of a 2003 post on Boing Boing)… either the topic is still too taboo or most people aren’t paying attention. For times like these you can count on Asian Sex Gazette to cover the story (again).
To many Hong Kongers, Nazis represent the epitome of desirability. Their tanks were made by Mercedes and Porsche; their uniforms were original Hugo Boss.
Twenty years after the last British skinhead tired of the joke, it’s still not unusual to see a Hong Kong teen in an Adolph Hitler European Tour t-shirt.
This sort of story seems to pop up every few years…
Nasa says out of this world trans-orbital lovin’ could jeopardize manned missions to Mars. Where are the guilt free, pan-sexual astronauts when you need them?
“With the prospect of a very long-term mission, it’s hard to ignore the question of sexuality,” says Lawrence Palinkas, a medical anthropologist at the University of Southern California in Los Angeles, an author of the report. It reviewed NASA’s plans for research to keep astronauts safe and healthy in space – but the plans make no mention of sexual issues in spaceflight. link via NewScientistSpace.com
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